Chris Watson and his family at our 2016 Memories Walk Chris Watson, Regional Sales Manager at MathWorks, has been a stalwart friend to TCR for many years as well as a volunteer peer support group facilitator. Eight years ago, when Chris wanted to maximize the impact of his charitable giving to TCR, he chose to take advantage of MathWorks’s matching gift program, which, per individual donor, matches one hundred percent of all donations up to $500. When asked about his inspiration for connecting to TCR through matching gifts, Chris is quick to credit the culture at his office. “MathWorks actively encourages its employees to take advantage of its matching gift program in order to support causes that they feel deeply about,” he said. “Not only has using the program allowed me to double my giving dollars to TCR, I’m proud that, by participating, I’ve built strong relationships with likeminded people here who are passionate about fundraising for great causes.” “We have an internal news group specifically dedicated to showcasing and sharing charity work,” Chris added. “It’s wonderful to hear about the causes that others are so committed to helping, and it helps create an environment of mutual respect for the work we’re each doing in the community. It also fosters reciprocal giving.” When asked some of his best tips for getting started with setting up a matching gift program, he encourages those who are interested to first connect with the social mission liaison at their employer. That staff person will usually be found in your office’s human resources department. “Connecting with the appropriate staff person at your office will allow you to educate yourself on the process of giving matching gifts regularly, and it [...]
TCR Board President Michael Nagle We are proud to welcome Michael Nagle, a resident of Needham, to his new role as board president. As principal of the Michael Nagle Consulting Group, Michael possesses tremendous business acumen and leadership experience that supports our work in countless ways. Michael also has a deeply personal connection to our mission. In 2005, he and his wife, Melyné, brought their daughter, Isabelle, who was four at the time, to The Children’s Room after the death of her sister, Sophia. “TCR helped Isabelle find ways to deal with her grief which was especially challenging as she transitioned into elementary school,” Michael says. “TCR helped Melyné and I manage our own grief journey so we could help Isabelle. All three of us are motivated to support TCR so other families, children and teens get the same opportunity to adapt in healthy ways after the death of a parent or sibling.” In October 2014, Michael joined our Board of Directors, because he knew he wanted to give back. He realized that his experience as an Organization Development Consultant and Executive Coach could help strengthen and grow TCR, so he made the board commitment until 2020. “The most satisfying thing about this board experience is enabling Donna Smith Sharff and her fantastic staff to serve more and more people,” Michael says. “This is a very well-functioning board that is totally dedicated to TCR’s mission. There are no egos getting in the way of doing what is right for the organization.” A highlight of Michael’s time on the board was this summer’s trip to the annual symposium of the National Alliance for Grieving Children (NAGC). “Seeing TCR staff conduct a workshop at the [...]
By Laurie Moskowitz Corrois, LMHC Have you ever wondered why you “feel” more comfortable in certain environments? Is it the people in the space? Is it an aesthetic? The type of work that’s being done? Perhaps the music? Maybe it’s the lighting, the colors, the furniture placement, the art on the walls, or could it be our own energy and what we bring to the space? My response would be Yes! All of this and more help to support an environment and tap into it’s inherent potential . . . it’s therapeutic nature. Therapeutic space could be defined simply as space designed and created with intention and purpose, an environment that supports the well being of those utilizing the space. Each room at TCR has been thoughtfully and carefully developed to support and enhance the personal and collective experience for our children, teens and families. As the largest bereavement center in the northeast, The Children’s Room is recognized by many as a model in the community, reflecting the importance and value of therapeutic space planning. Jay Vogt, founder of Peoplesworth Way and a trusted mediator for The Children’s Room Board and Staff shared: “I love architecture, and my wife is a specialist in clearing the energy of spaces. So between the two of us, we tune in, feel space, and talk about it a lot. So I have been delighted, in the many times I have visited, and worked in, the Children’s Room spaces, to feel how vibrant, clear, and bright the energy feels in the rooms. Not the decor, but the feeling of the space. Many of us imagine grief being heavy and dark. Yet my experience of the spaces at the Children’s Room is the opposite—clear, light, and [...]
Nancy Simpson-Banker We would like to thank Nancy Simpson-Banker for her five years of service to our community as our first dedicated Development Director. As of August 1, 2016, she has chosen to return to the world of healthcare philanthropy, where she worked for 20 years before joining our The Children's Room (TCR) team. Since 2011 when Nancy joined the staff, philanthropy has doubled allowing us to serve 55% more individuals in direct grief services. We added Family Nights and dramatically expanded our community groups and teen programming. Nancy spent much of her valuable time and energy developing and cultivating personal relationships with our individual, foundation, and corporate donors. We are financially strong and have seeded our endowment with a $100,000 donation. We wish Nancy well and feel fortunate to continue to count her as a member of our community, both as a Circle Donor and Advisory Board member. * Kim Cayer Please join us in congratulating Kim Cayer on her promotion to Philanthropy Director. Kim has served as the Development Associate at TCR since 2010 where she oversaw major events, the annual fund, and grant writing. Many of you know Kim as our extraordinary community tour guide where she brought to bear her six years as a TCR program volunteer. Her enthusiasm, deep knowledge of development, and dedication to The Children’s Room and the local community make Kim the ideal person for this job. Kim currently serves on the Board of Youth Services in Arlington and is a former board member of the Arlington-Belmont Crew Club, Robbins Farm Park and PTO Co-President of Arlington’s Brackett School. She holds a bachelor’s degree from Connecticut College where she was a member of the [...]
Teens talked openly with young adult TCR alumni about grief in college, grief on social media, and much more. In June, we hosted a unique Teen Program event: a panel discussion providing teens a safe space to ask a group of five TCR alumni questions about their experiences coping with grief in adolescence and about the transitions into life as a young adult. Each of the five young adults who participated were college-aged, and all five are alumni of our programs from their childhood and/or teenage years. The teens who attended were all of high school age. The group got to know each other a bit during icebreakers, pairing up to share responses to amusing personal or theoretical questions. Each of the young adults then took a few minutes to share their grief story, how they managed adolescence, and the transition into college. Afterwards, the entire group—teens and young adults together—participated in an open discussion about their experiences. A number of common themes emerged throughout the conversation. Teens talked about how experiencing the death has changed them as a friend and family member, managing tough days (like anniversaries and milestones), choosing how and what to share with peers, others reactions, the part that social media plays in grieving, and their hopes and anticipations for the future. “I was impressed by the openness of the teens’ questions and by how thoughtful the young adult alumni were in sharing their answers,” said Christine Lambright, Youth & Community Outreach Coordinator. “The young adults prepared notes on their stories ahead of time and gave real consideration to what they would have wanted to know back when they were a teen.” The teens and young adults were able to relate with each other on [...]
Phyllis Silverman was one of a kind. She was a towering intellectual force in a small frame. She didn’t initially intend to work in the field of bereavement, but ultimately, as a researcher and author, she dedicated her forty year career to challenging the notion of bereavement as a pathology or an “illness” that could—or should—be cured. She was unwavering in her commitment to expressing a child or teen’s right to grieve, and she spent her life’s work providing writing, research, tools, and guidance for the bereaved and those supporting them. Everyone who knew her well had to smile at the fact that Phyllis never, ever hesitated to speak her mind and tell her truth along the way. We at The Children’s Room are deeply saddened by Phyllis’s death. All of us are going to miss her deeply. We mourn the loss not just of a pioneer in our field of bereavement; in Phyllis, we mourn our organization’s bedrock foundation and the truest champion of our work, as well as a dear friend in our personal lives. Our three founders: Judy Oliver, Phyllis Silverman, and Jean Marchant After all, it was Phyllis’s vision and dogged persistence that helped to bring this very organization into being. When Phyllis began meeting with fellow cofounders Jean Marchant and Judy Oliver about creating a center for grief and loss, it became abundantly clear that serving grieving children was the single most pressing need to be filled, and The Children’s Room was born. When they were no longer able to operate as a part of Hospice West, they felt stymied as they searched for a new home for the program until a Baptist minister graciously arranged for space [...]
My name is Emily Carson Dashawetz, and I am the Communications & Marketing Coordinator for The Children’s Room. June 15, 2016, marked my one-year anniversary on staff, and I am thrilled to have this opportunity to introduce myself. Before joining the staff, I worked for eight years as an editor at the Harvard Alumni Association’s Class Report Office. As I considered what might lie ahead for my career after such a long and fruitful chapter at Harvard, I felt called to incorporate my passion for community building and service into my daily work. I’m still amazed that acting on the persistence of that call by setting up my first ever Idealist.org job search led me back to TCR, where I was a volunteer peer support group facilitator in the Sunday group from 2008 to 2011. My three years as a volunteer made one thing clear: the grief support resources provided by TCR are essential to building strong, healthy communities. I wanted to be a part of that as a staff member. However, what drew me here professionally was the opportunity to contribute to this organization’s remarkable progress by bolstering its communications efforts. The energy here has been palpable. Within my first six months on staff, we launched TCR’s newly redesigned website, and we shared the news that New England Patriots owner Robert Kraft came to visit with a group of our teens in October—and that was just the beginning. Whether I’ve been working on deepening our engagement with our online community via social media or sharing news about our Boston Marathon team with local newspapers, I have been empowered to tell TCR’s story from many different angles. As a member of TCR’s administrative team, my [...]
Participants were able to experience a TCR Family Night activity in an interactive presentation led by Laurie Moskowitz-Corrois and Colleen Shannon. In June, staff members from The Children’s Room (TCR) attended the 2016 National Alliance For Grieving Children Symposium in Indianapolis, Indiana. Held annually, this conference brings together professionals from across the United States and Canada who work in the field of grief support. TCR staff has been a regular contributor at this gathering, the largest of its kind in the country. At this year’s symposium, Associate Program Directors Laurie Moskowitz-Corrois and Colleen Shannon presented a workshop about TCR’s Family Night program, an expressive arts-based evening that offers grieving family members the opportunity to work together on a specific project. Through an interactive, activity-based learning and discussion session, Laurie and Colleen shared their expertise and their experience with incorporating expressive arts activities into the healing process of grieving families. “Our Family Night program allows us to support many families whose needs are best served through this monthly activity,” said TCR Executive Director Donna Smith Sharff. “At NAGC’s symposium, we were proud to have the opportunity to share this program’s success with helping families integrate loss into the life of their new family structure.” TCR staff received overwhelmingly positive feedback from their peers about the presentation. Conference-goers said that their communities could be better served with programming like TCR’s Family Night model, and there was significant interest in adopting similar programming at their own organizations. This and other conference experiences affirmed that The Children’s Room is a leader in its field.
Father’s Day is this Sunday, June 19th. Reminders seem to be everywhere – in the greeting card aisles at the store, ads that appear wherever you look, and friends and family making plans for the weekend ahead. This time of year can be hard for those who have lost their fathers, and for fathers who are grieving a child. Give yourself permission to spend the day in whatever way feels best to you. For some, that might mean participating in family traditions or sharing special memory foods. You could also create new rituals and find new ways to remember and celebrate the life of the person who died. If you're with a bereaved dad on Father’s Day, be sure to ask how they are doing; he may decline to talk, but offering to listen is an important gesture in showing your care. If you’re supporting a bereaved child or teen, make sure you ask directly what might be helpful for them. The child or teen may have clear ideas about what will make them most comfortable, but they may not be able to articulate it without being asked. Sometimes the anticipation of the day can be harder than the day itself. It is often helpful to plan ahead for how you want to spend the day. Everyone’s grief is unique, and there is no right or wrong way to observe holidays like Father’s Day. This is just one day of the year, but you carry your loss with you year-round. You don’t have to pressure yourself to make this day fit into some kind of mold of what it “should” be. You are the expert on your own grief.
The Children’s Room staff and interns celebrate receiving a Cummings Foundation “100k for 100” grant The Children’s Room is proud to announce that it is one of 100 local nonprofits to receive grants of $100,000 each through Cummings Foundation’s “$100K for 100” program. The Children's Room was chosen from a total of 479 applicants, during a competitive review process. The Children’s Room’s executive director, Donna Smith Sharff, said, “This grant from Cummings Foundation is an extraordinary gift that will allow us to continue to provide our peer support groups free of charge. Family finances may be uncertain following a death, and The Children’s Room does not want to add additional pressure to families during difficult times of loss and change.” Smith Sharff added, “This gift will help us expand our services to grieving children, teens, and families by enhancing our peer support services at our center in Arlington and at area schools and local organizations, such as Boys & Girls Clubs.” The $100K for 100 program supports nonprofits that are not only based in but also primarily serve Middlesex, Essex, and Suffolk counties. This year, the program is benefiting 41 different cities and towns within the Commonwealth. Through this place-based initiative, Cummings Foundation aims to give back in the area where it owns commercial buildings, all of which are managed, at no cost to the Foundation, by its affiliate Cummings Properties. Founded in 1970 by Bill Cummings of Winchester, the Woburn-based commercial real estate firm leases and manages more than 10 million square feet of space, the majority of which exclusively benefits the Foundation. “We admire and very much appreciate the important work that nonprofit organizations like The Children’s Room are doing in the [...]