Mother’s Day can bring up a variety of different feelings, especially if you are grieving the death of someone important to you.

You may be remembering your mother, grandmother, or other important figure in your life. You may also be grieving for a child who has died or for the loss of the family and future you envisioned for yourself.

No matter how long it has been since they died, or what your relationship was like with them when they were alive, it is normal to have many conflicting feelings around your loss.

Allow yourself the time and space to acknowledge whatever feelings you may have, and remember that experiencing happiness and moving forward in your life in no way diminishes the love you have for that person.

Everyone experiences grief in a unique way. There is no time frame for grief or “right way” to remember someone who has died.

If you have experienced the death of a child, you may find this Huffington Post blog post by Claire McCarthy, M.D. comforting and helpful: “Being the Mother of a Child Who Died — On Mother’s Day.”

“It can feel very lonely, being the parent of a child who died. Especially on Mother’s Day or Father’s Day. We feel so different from those around us, all those happy people with children the same age our child was, or would have been. But over the years, I’ve come to understand that I’m not alone at all.”

We’re grateful this thoughtful, personal piece has been shared with so many people and hope it has led to meaningful discussions about grief and loss.

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