The Children's Room is proud of our graduating seniors. We recognize that the past few months might have felt quite different than usual, and graduation may not have been precisely the occasion they imagined. We feel that our seniors deserve every ounce of credit! Graduation is a big deal, and we are excited for them and celebrate ALL of their achievements! We also want to send them off, knowing that they still have a lot of support! Take a look at the many different (free) ways seniors and young adults can continue to connect with others who have had similar experiences: HEART Play for Young Adults A great way to get to know other late high school and college-aged individuals from MA! Zoom groups are offered throughout the summer and beyond. Find a space to acknowledge the challenges of graduation, leaving home after a loss, meeting new people, and more. Learn more. Actively Moving Forward This national organization is focused on supporting, connecting, and empowering grieving young adults. They've got virtual support mastered! They offer a free app that connects you with others in a fun social way, virtual support groups, customized text messages from a "Grief Coach," and lots of info about finding support during college. Learn more. The Dinner Party Young adults in nearly 100 cities & towns around the world are meeting up for dinner! Find a community of other emerging adults who have experienced a past loss and meet up for pot-lucks and great conversations. Learn more. What's Your Grief This website offers a tremendous archive of practical, humorous, sarcastic, and down-to-earth articles about dealing with grief. Written by two young adults who have had their own past losses, WYG covers [...]
Expressive Activities adapted for Bereaved Families during COVID-19 The National Alliance for Grieving Children recently hosted a webinar presented by The Children's Room clinical Program Team entitled, "Family Night in a Box: Expressive Activities adapted for Bereaved Families during COVID-19". The intention of the webinar was to share & facilitate with our larger bereavement community one of the activities from “Family Night in a Box”, as well as to offer all 13 activities as a PDF resource. It was also an opportunity to re-introduce “Family Night”, a monthly service we have presented in the past at other NAGC Symposia. The Children's Room invited all participants to join in doing the activity, entitled, "Scream Box" during the webinar. This is the creation of a box that children, teens, and adults can use to "scream" or shout about whatever feelings they are having related to positive or more difficult events when they are also grieving. This gave participants an opportunity to understand the activity, have a chance to create one in real-time, learn how to do it, and see how it might be used or adapted for families at their own organizations. Watch the video and download the activities guide.
When Michael Nagle walked through the blue door of the yellow house known as The Children’s Room in 2006, becoming the Chair of the Board of Directors was the furthest thing from his mind. Michael, his wife Melyne, and oldest daughter Izzy participated in grief support services after losing their youngest daughter, Sophia, one week after her first birthday. A few months from now, The Children’s Room will bid a warm thank you to Michael as his Board Chair term ends. With a strong desire to give back to The Children’s Room, Michael accepted the invitation to join the board in 2014. “It was the most cohesive board I have had the pleasure to serve on. The amount of individual trust, the ability to engage in thought-provoking opinion sharing, and the commitment to the mission are unifying elements across all the members.” Chosen as Chair of the Board in 2016, Michael is particularly proud of several accomplishments while at The Children’s Room. “The relationship we have established between the board and the Executive Director and her staff is outstanding. Secondly, the focus on board recruitment has allowed us to identify and recruit for needed competencies, including the addition of young professional leadership that will guide us as we grow.” When asked if Michael had any advice for incoming Chair, Jenny Carlson-Pietraszek, he responded, “continue to leverage the many powerful board voices and enhance the partnership between the board and the Executive Director.” As we extend a gracious virtual handshake and hug to Michael, we wish him luck in his new adventures.
As much as The Children’s Room has supported all our TCR families closely during this pause in programming, we have found our thoughts continuously pulled back to our teens and how this unusual COVID-19 time might be impacting them. The teens who are brought towards TCR are no strangers to the layers of losses that come with being their age and experiencing the death of a parent or sibling. While they have keen insights about how their lives have been impacted, we suspect that many are encountering new emotions and situations that even they could not have imagined. Grieving teens often find outlets, build a sense of belonging, and form identities through their social communities. For nearly the past two months, however, they have found themselves separated from friends, teachers, coaches, and others who might have been their confidants and supports. With sports teams, school communities, after-school activities, jobs, and even time spent relaxing with friends taken away for the foreseeable future, it is likely that they are feeling the isolation of this time magnified. A number of teens have also needed to take on additional responsibilities during this time, further adding to the stressors that they are managing. Many teens attending TCR’s groups can identify a whole list of future milestones that will be altered by not having the person who died there to witness and share in them. For our seniors graduating in 2020, some of these same significant moments - which were already anticipated to bring reminders of past loss - will now be intertwined with a new type of grief. In addition to the person who died not being there to take pre-prom photos, cheer on their senior sports awards ceremony, [...]
Each year our Marathon Team plays a crucial role in raising much-needed funds to support TCR’s services for grieving children, teens, and families. Runners receive ongoing support from The Children’s Room in reaching their fundraising goals. Thanks to the generosity of the John Hancock Non-Profit Marathon Program, TCR was awarded 6 bibs for the 2020 Boston Marathon. Our Boston Marathon runners, each have a unique story full of personal connections to TCR and strong motivations for running. Learn More
One child out of every 20 will have a parent die before graduating from high school, according to the US Census, and it’s estimated that one of every seven will experience the death of a parent or sibling before age 20, according to a recent New York Life Foundation/NAGC survey of children and teenagers. As a culture, we are often quick to dismiss or downplay the needs of children and teens in mourning; as a result, their emotions are often misunderstood. Children’s Grief Awareness Day takes place November 19, and it is an opportunity to consider the unique needs of these children and teens. To mark the day, we will be wearing blue at The Children’s Room, and we have shaded our Facebook and Twitter profiles blue, and we encourage you to do the same. One of the greatest needs of a child or teen experiencing the grief that comes with the death of a parent or sibling is a safe place in which they can express what they’re experiencing without fear of judgment or fear that they will be told how they should be feeling. At The Children’s Room, we work to create a space in which no child or teen feels isolated or alone in their grief, as they might feel at home or at school. By honoring Children’s Grief Awareness Day, we can create a world in which death and grieving is integrated into our lives as a normal life event, and in such a way that leads to greater compassion, hope, and growth. To learn more about how best to talk to children about death and dying, we encourage you to listen to this Arlington Public News audio interview with TCR [...]
If you’re reading this then you know we’ve launched a new website! We’re incredibly excited to bring this new resource to those interested in learning more about the process of creating safe, supportive communities so that no child, teen, or family has to grieve alone. To make our information more widely accessible, we built our new site to be much easier to navigate on laptops, mobile phones, and tablet. Please take a look around! We’re always looking for ways to more easily connect with our community. If you haven’t already visited us on Facebook, please check out our page for daily posts of information and inspiration. You can also follow us on Twitter for news and information about our work.
The Children’s Room (TCR) is proud to announce that it raised more than $100,000 at its 12th Annual Memories Walk held October 25, 2015. It is the first time that funds raised through the Memories Walk have exceeded $100,000; last year’s Memories Walk raised $82,000 for The Children’s Room. The three-mile Memories Walk was held in Arlington and nearly 350 community members participated. Many wore red Memories That Move Us T-shirts that included the names of loved ones in whose memory they were walking. “This event is a meaningful and fun way to celebrate our special community and remember loved ones,” said TCR Executive Director Donna Smith Sharff. “In doing so, we raised more than $100,000 to support our programs assisting grieving children, teens, and families. This is the first time we’ve exceeded $100,000 in fundraising from our Walk, and it is a continuation of the success we have seen this year that’s included the expansion of our work with teens; our provision of services in neighboring communities, including Boston; and the amazing show of confidence in our work by supporters like Robert Kraft, who recently contributed $100,000 to our organization. ” We also invite you to sign up for our email updates, like us on Facebook, and follow us on Twitter to learn more about our work.
We are thrilled to welcome Andrea Perry, our newest member of the TCR Board of Directors. Andrea received her undergraduate degree at Smith College and earned an MSW at Boston College School of Social Work. She is also an alumna of Boston University’s Institute for Non-Profit Management and Leadership program. She brings with her to TCR over twenty years of experience working directly with Boston’s at-risk youth in various neighborhoods of the city. Currently, Andrea serves as the Executive Director of YouthConnect, a program of the Boys & Girls Clubs of Boston in partnership with the Boston Police Department. YouthConnect places clinical social workers in police stations across the city to provide police-referred, high-risk, and proven-risk young people and families with voluntary, comprehensive clinical and case-management services. In 2012, Andrea was named by the White House as a “Champion of Change” for youth violence prevention. Andrea began attending TCR Board meetings as a member in January 2015, but she had utilized TCR as a training resource for fellow staff members at YouthConnect and Boys & Girls Clubs of Boston for years before bringing her experience and her expertise to our Board. That experience drove her to want to serve with us. As she said, “I wanted to serve on the Board of TCR because I know how important it is to help children positively cope with their grief. I am excited by TCR’s efforts to deepen their services to teens and to the children, families, and neighborhoods of Boston.” Welcome, Andrea, and thank you!
It seems almost impossible that it’s already time to gather books and backpacks and to recalibrate our bodies and minds to the rhythms set by the school year. This time of year can present a particularly difficult set of adjustments for grieving children, teens, and parents. For parents and caregivers, sending a grieving child or teen back to school can bring up a wide range of emotions. Parents want their children to feel safe, and they may worry about their grieving child stepping out the door and into a less sheltered, less understanding environment outside of the home. Children and teens may crave a return to the normalcy and safety provided by school routine, but they may also find that their peers often misunderstand the many conflicting feelings caused by their loss. School teachers, counselors, and administrators might find themselves needing to support a grieving student and not know where to turn. It can be a difficult time of year, and there are no easy answers. We would like to share a few important tips, compiled by our friends at The Dougy Center. We believe they represent some great guidelines for teachers, parents, and anyone else who might be caring for a grieving child or teen as he or she heads back to school. DO listen. Grieving students need a safe, trusted adult who will listen to them. DO follow routines. Routines provide a sense of safety, which is very comforting to the grieving student. DO set limits. Just because students are grieving, doesn’t mean that the rules do not apply. When grieving, students may experience lapses in concentration or exhibit risk-taking behavior. Setting clear limits provides a more secure and safer environment for everyone under these circumstances. [...]