For parents and other adults who have lost a close loved one – family or friend, there are so many discussions, issues, and concerns that arise. There are topics that are difficult to discuss with people who have not experienced something similar. The Children’s Room Parents Council, a group of program alumni who are dedicated to our mission and to the support of peers, is offering a Sunday Night Discussion Series to create a forum for these conversations. These discussions are open to the public, and there is no fee to attend. We just ask that you RSVP. All discussion groups will meet from 6:30-8:00 at our house in Arlington. The next 2 topics in the series are: Getting Through the Holidays After the Loss of a Loved One: November 8th Holding on to traditions or letting go? How about creating “new” traditions? Come hear how others have found ways to get through some of the most difficult days and situations. Dating and/or Remarriage After the Loss of a Spouse: January 10th Listen to and discuss with others the complex issues around this decision -- from finding the time to date, to bringing the children into the new relationship, to merging households. Upcoming Discussions: Helping Your Teenagers Through the Loss of a Loved One: March 7 Your Changing Relationship to Your In-Laws After the Loss of Your Spouse: May 2 Please visit our calendar for a complete schedule. For more information or to RSVP for a Discussion, please send email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
We are pleased to announce that our Resources page has been updated to include much more information designed to help you better understand and support grieving children, teens, and families. Whether you're a parent, teacher, counselor, or friend, we hope you'll find the information here useful.
Sunday, May 3rd from 5:30 pm to 7:00 pm, we invite you to another workshop in our Parenting Through Grief Series, sponsored by the "alumni" parents of The Children's Room. Our next topic is on dating and marrying after a loss. Everyone is different, and our parents will talk about making decisions about dating. Taking the next step and remarrying is a important moment in your life, so come hear what other parents have to say about taking the plunge. The public is welcome to attend, admission is free, and RSVPs are essential so we may plan. Email email@example.com. The workshop takes place at The Children's Room headquarters, 1210 Massachusetts Avenue, Arlington.
Our Parents Council, a group of "alumni" parents and other caring parents come together for workshops on a variety of topics. The following information was compiled from their recent workshop. Words That Don't Help We have all been hurt by people saying or doing the wrong things in response to the tragic loss of a loved one. It often times makes things more difficult and can cause more pain and anger. Some common examples are: “You are the man of the house now and you need to take care of your mother” “How are you?” “Your loved one is at peace now.” “God gives you what you can handle.” “I know exactly how you feel.” “Everything happens for a reason.” “They are in a better place.” “You need to be strong for the kids.” We all agreed that people in general don’t know what to say, so often times they say the wrong things and these comments can be very hurtful. There are words that can heal and there are words that hurt. People are not trying to be malicious but they are uncomfortable around you and often times say the wrong things. Words That Help There are many things that can be said that will help and here is a list of them. “I don’t know what to say” “I am thinking about you” “I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers” “I am here for you” “I don’t know how you feel but I am here to help in any way I can”. Sometimes a hug or a gesture of kindness is better than saying anything. Don’t wait for the person to ask for help. Do something that you think will help [...]