By Laurie Moskowitz-Corrois, LMHC, REAT "Have you ever wondered why you “feel” more comfortable in certain environments? Is it the people in the space? Is it an aesthetic? The type of work that’s being done? Perhaps the music? Maybe it’s the lighting, the colors, the furniture placement, the art on the walls, or could it be our own energy and what we bring to the space? My response would be Yes!" All of this and more help to support an environment and tap into its inherent potential, it’s therapeutic nature. Therapeutic space could be defined simply as space designed and created with intention and purpose, an environment that supports the well being of those utilizing the space. Each room at TCR has been thoughtfully and carefully developed to support and enhance the personal and collective experience of our children, teens, and families. As the largest bereavement center in the northeast, The Children’s Room is recognized by many as a model in the community, reflecting the importance and value of therapeutic space planning. Creating a warm, inviting, grounded space begins with a trust of the space itself, a “felt sense” for the energy in the space. The concept of Therapeutic Space Planning is based on an understanding of valuing and respecting the environment, being aware of the purpose of the space, and then, with intention, supporting it to its full potential. In turn, the space reflects back the feeling of purpose, care, and the relationship it offers to those of us using and experiencing it. Oftentimes, the energy experienced in interior space is subliminal, more of a “felt-sense” than a visual one. Sometimes it can be misunderstood as an environment that is simply “organized” or “well designed.” However, there is an important [...]
The holiday season can be an especially tough time for those who are grieving. We are all triggered in our losses at different times for different reasons, and this time of year can bring back so many memories. With so many traditions and expectations surrounding the holiday season, the loss of an important person in your life may be felt even more intensely. As our calendars fill up with activities and gatherings, it’s important to give ourselves permission to do what feels right for ourselves and our families. While it’s good to make plans for coping during the holidays, we also need to remember to be flexible and take care of ourselves. Grief is unique for every individual, and you are the expert on your own grief and what feels right for you. Here are some tips on how you can help take care of yourself and those close to you during the holidays. We hope you find them helpful! Acknowledge that the holidays will be different this year Different holiday activities, decorations, and foods may remind you of the person who died and how things will be different without them. Acknowledging your feelings about the holidays can give you and your family a chance to think about certain events or days that might be more difficult for you, and to discuss how you can best support each other. Plan ahead The anticipation of the day may be more difficult than the day itself. Having a plan ahead of time can help ease some of the anxiety and fear of the unknown. Talk with close family and friends and let them know what you might want or need. Be sure to include the children in your [...]
Online registration is now open for our 2012 Summer Workshops! We're excited to provide you with four different workshop opportunities this summer. All trainings take place at our home in Arlington and last from 9:00 am until 4:00 pm. Continuing Education Credits are available. Register early and save $10 on your registration fee! These workshops have been popular in the past with teachers, social workers, health care professionals, and religious leaders. Whether you help support grieving children in your professional or personal life (or both), these workshops will provide you with strategies and tools for working with children and teens of all ages. Workshops offered include: Fostering Resiliency in Children Coping with Death, Illness, & Other Losses (Wednesday, August 1st) Helping Your Community Respond to Loss: Creating a Crisis Team & Plan of Action (Tuesday, August 7th) "If we lost Uncle David, why don't we go find him?" Strategies for Talking with Young Children about Death, Dying, & Loss (Thursday, August 9th) Understanding the Challenges of Loss in Adolescence (Tuesday, August 14th) To learn more and register for any of these workshops, please visit our 2012 Summer Workshop Series page!
The Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) is hosting a webinar this Wednesday, May 16th on how children and teens experience grief. TCR founder Phyllis Silverman, Phd, MSW, ScM, will share knowledge she's gained from her decades of research and work with grieving children and families. Visit ADEC's website to learn more and register for this webinar. If you're not able to watch it live, you can also purchase a recording of the presentation.
The DeVito Family and The Children’s Room Invite you to… How Parents Can Help Children Cope with Grief and Loss Language, Tools and Strategies Thursday May 10, 2012 • 6:30 P.M. Arlington Town Hall 700 Massachusetts Ave., Arlington This educational workshop is open to anyone who would like to better understand their child’s grief. The prior loss of a loved one is not required. There is no charge to attend and light refreshments will be served. The parking lot behind town hall (on Academy St.) will be available for your convenience. Please RSVP: [email protected] or (781) 643-5610 This workshop will be presented by Deborah Rivlin, Director of Education & Training at The Children's Room. She has over 30 years experience helping grieving children, teens and families. Deborah was an integral part of Boston Medical Center’s Good Grief program from 1988 until 2008 providing in-service trainings and crisis intervention. Deborah developed and served as the director of The CIRCLE, a comprehensive family bereavement support program for 10 years, including support programs for children and adults who had a loved one die on 9/11/01. Click here to download a pdf flyer for this workshop.
We set the dates for our next Workshop Series! The Children's Room is happy to present an educational opportunity for teachers, counselors, social workers, and other professionals who work with children and families. Deborah Rivlin, Director of Education & Training at TCR, will be leading four workshops this August on issues affecting grieving children of all ages and their communities. Continuing Education credits are available. Topics include: Fostering Resiliency in Children Coping with Death, Illness, and Other Losses Helping Your Community Respond to Loss: Creating a Crisis Team and Plan of Action "If we lost Uncle David, why don't we go find him?" Strategies for Talking with Young Children about Death, Dying, and Loss Understanding the Challenges of Loss in Adolescence Learn more by visiting our Workshops page or downloading our 2012 Summer Workshop Series flyer.
Thursday, November 17th, 2011 Children's Grief Awareness Day is observed every year on the Thursday before Thanksgiving Day. We invite you to take this opportunity to learn more about how children grieve and find resources to help support grieving children in your family or community. Grief affects more children than most of us realize, and children express their grief in many different ways. Being aware of how children of different ages experience grief can help you educate others in your community about what grieving children need. One by one, we can create a safe and caring community where grieving children and their families can receive support and the hope that comes from knowing they are not alone. To learn more about children's grief, visit our Resources page. To learn more about Children's Grief Awareness Day, visit the website for the National Alliance for Grieving Children. To find out how The Children's Room can help your school, religious community or other group learn how to support the grieving children you work with, please contact our Director of Education & Training, Deborah Rivlin, at [email protected]
Using the expertise developed through working with hundreds of grieving children, teens, and adults, The Children's Room educates the community about issues related to grief and loss. Teachers, social workers, and others who work closely with children and young adults will benefit from learning tools and strategies needed to support those impacted by a loss, crisis, or trauma. * Workshops take place at TCR from 9:00 am to 4:00 pm. * Continuing education credits available for social workers, counselors, and teachers. * Click here for a registration form. Visit the Workshop Series page on our website for more information about workshops, registration and continuing education credits. Presented by Deborah Rivlin, MA Director of Education & Training. Deborah has worked in the field of bereavement for 35 years. For more information about workshops,trainings,and consultations contact: [email protected] or call 781-641-4741 x321
The NAGC's 15th annual symposium took place in Boston this year! This symposium brought together professionals in the child bereavement field to share their best practices concerning programming, research, measurement, fundraising and other topics. This colorful photograph shows artwork created by attendees from our NAGC workshop, "Winter Always Turns to Spring." Over 300 representatives from child bereavement programs across the country came together in June to share and learn about the important issues facing the many grieving families we serve. Staff from The Children's Room presenting at the symposium included Laurie Moskowitz-Corrois, Deborah Rivlin, and Colleen Shannon. They are pictured here with Phyllis Silverman (board member and internationally known author and bereavement researcher) as well as our Executive Director, Donna Smith Sharff. Our workshops were well attended and widely appreciated! We shared an expressive arts activity we had used this spring in our groups as we explored different feelings. The discussion that unfolds is around growth (the petals), support (the stem), comfort (the leaves), and a child or teen being at the center of their own life, with the person who died always being a part of them. As Laurie Moskowitz-Corrois explains, the metaphor "winter always turns into spring" can become a rich dialogue using the understanding of the seasons to deepen our awareness of the cycles of life and death and personal meaning making." Email [email protected] if you'd like to find out more about our workshop materials. For a detailed description of the expressive arts intervention on Spring Flowers, please click here.