Candle lightings this holiday season

The candle lighting events listed below have already taken place. If you know of other remembrance events or gatherings, please send them to [email protected] so that we can share them with the rest of the community. ................................. The Visiting Nurse and Community Health's Hospice Care invites you to their Celebration of Light Holiday Service - a service of comfort and hope especially for those experiencing loss. Thursday, December 8th, 2011 at 7:00pm Church of Our Saviour 21 Marathon St., East Arlington, MA For more information, please contact Nancy Strong, Hospice Bereavement Coordinator at 781-643-6090 ext. 1342. Download the flyer here. ................................. The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting is hosting their 15th annual candle lighting on December 11th, 2011. This memorial event will happen worldwide at 7:00pm local time, creating a virtual wave of light as hundreds of thousands of persons in all time zones commemorate and honor the memory of children in a way that transcends all ethnic, cultural, religious, and political boundaries. Many people will participate in this memorial in their own homes or small groups, but you are welcome to join the Greater Boston Chapter of The Compassionate Friends for their candle lighting gathering in Jamaica Plain. December 11th, 2011 from 4:00pm to 8:00pm Forest Hill Cemetery, 95 Forest Hill Ave, Jamaica Plain, MA Read about the details for this event and download the event flyer here. Pre-registration is recommended. Register by calling Linda Strother at 617-288-8068 or e-mailing [email protected] ................................. We warmly invite you to come to The Children's Room for our Circle of Light Community Candle Lighting Wednesday, December 14th, 2011 6:30pm to 7:30pm at The Children's Room in Arlington, MA Readings, a community art project, and refreshments will all be part [...]

By |December 23rd, 2011|Categories: Community Events, Memorial Events, News, Rituals|Comments Off on Candle lightings this holiday season

Community Support for Memories Walk Amazing

We had sunshine yesterday for the annual Memories Walk, but more importantly we were surrounded by familes, volunteers, and friends who came to support the mission and programs of The Children's Room. The community support was simply amazing.  We would like to thank everyone who walked, donated, and sent words of encouragement.  And we would like to give special thanks to our Sol Circle walkers, the Arlington Hockey Club, and Robert's Birthday party. Donations can still be made online at www.firstgiving.com/childrensroom, or by mail.

By |October 4th, 2010|Categories: Community Events, Family Stories, Memorial Events, News, Resources, Rituals, Teens, Volunteers|Comments Off on Community Support for Memories Walk Amazing

Getting Through the Holidays After the Loss of a Loved One: Sunday Night Discussion – November 8

For parents and other adults who have lost a close loved one – family or friend, there are so many discussions, issues, and concerns that arise.  There are topics that are difficult to discuss with people who have not experienced something similar. The Children’s Room Parents Council, a group of program alumni who are dedicated to our mission and to the support of peers, is offering a Sunday Night Discussion Series to create a forum for these conversations.  These discussions are open to the public, and there is no fee to attend.  We just ask that you RSVP. All discussion groups will meet from 6:30-8:00 at our house in Arlington.  The next 2 topics in the series are: Getting Through the Holidays After the Loss of a Loved One: November 8th Holding on to traditions or letting go? How about creating “new” traditions? Come hear how others have found ways to get through some of the most difficult days and situations. Dating and/or Remarriage After the Loss of a Spouse: January 10th Listen to and discuss with others the complex issues around this decision -- from finding the time to date, to bringing the children into the new relationship, to merging households. Upcoming Discussions: Helping Your Teenagers Through the Loss of  a Loved One: March 7 Your Changing Relationship to Your In-Laws After the Loss of Your Spouse: May 2 Please visit our calendar for a complete schedule. For more information or to RSVP for a Discussion, please send email to [email protected]

By |November 4th, 2009|Categories: Advocacy, Child Loss, Community Events, Events, Family Stories, News, Parents Council, Resources, Rituals, Teens|Comments Off on Getting Through the Holidays After the Loss of a Loved One: Sunday Night Discussion – November 8

9/11 Anniversary: Moment of Silence, Day of Service, and Unbounded Gratitude

We, The Children’s Room friends and families, will honor the Moment of Silence at 8:46am on September 11, 2009 to remember those lost, and to celebrate their lives and the lives of their families who continue the journey of hope and healing. We share and embrace the Massachusetts 9/11 Fund’s themes of service, remembrance, and volunteerism, and are deeply grateful to have had our Annual Memories Walk selected as one of this year’s local “United We Serve” volunteer projects. Anyone who would like to donate to the Mass 9/11 Fund can find their Memories Walk team at Firstgiving.com/childrensroom.

By |September 10th, 2009|Categories: Community Events, Events, Family Stories, Memorial Events, News, Rituals|0 Comments

“Rock Ceremony” has special meaning

Beautiful little cloth bags with silk strings fill a basket up on the third floor of The Children’s Room. What are they for? These handmade bags are an important part of our “Rock Ceremony,” a ritual shared by every grieving family in our program. Whenever families gather at The Children’s Room, we end the visit holding hands in a big closing circle. Sometimes during closing circle we have a Rock Ceremony, marking a sendoff to a family ready to leave their bi-monthly support group. A family is invited into the center of the closing circle, and each person picks a handmade bag to fill with rocks. One by one, each family member chooses a rough rock with sharp edges: this rock symbolizes the corner of their heart that feels painful because someone in their family has died. Then they each choose three smooth stones, to symbolize the enduring beauty of life and the parts of them that are shiny and whole, and perhaps stronger than before. We recite the Rock Ceremony reading, which includes the words, “Because of what’s happened to you, you may always be stronger, more gentle, and more tender with all the people in your life. These stones were chosen just for you, and have special meaning.” Many caring hands have collected rocks and sewn the handmade bags for our ceremony, and we welcome contributions! We can all appreciate comforting rituals in the face of changes and challenges. Against a backdrop of uncertainty or difficulty, a ritual helps us pause and re-center our outlook. The Rock Ceremony at The Children’s Room is just one way to connect to our past and to each other, as we honor important feelings and memories together. [...]

By |February 11th, 2009|Categories: Rituals, Volunteers|0 Comments

A String of Memories

“This was my great grandmother’s memory string,” Laura told Whiskers in a loud voice. “Then it was my grandmother’s, then my mother’s, and now it’s mine.” The Memory String by Eve Bunting is a book about a girl named Laura who tells her cat what each button stands for on her precious memory string. Since her mom died three years before, the buttons and memories mean a lot to Laura. The buttons all have special meaning, like the button from Laura’s birthday dress, or the khaki button from her dad’s uniform when he went to war, or the white button from her mother’s nightgown. Making a memory string is a way to remember family history, and that’s just what kids at The Children’s Room can do when they make one of their own.  Listening to the book being read aloud to them is just one way to get ideas for how to make a memory string. Children in our groups can also choose from a large donation of beads that have been collected for the launch of this special project, where kids can paint wooden beads or make beads out of clay, then add them to beads or buttons from home.