The start of a new year is often seen as a time of renewal, resolutions, and fresh beginnings. But for families navigating grief, this season can bring mixed emotions—a poignant blend of hope for the future and sorrow for what has been lost. At The Children’s Room, we know how challenging it can be to face the idea of “moving forward” while carrying the weight of loss.
How Children Experience Grief
Children and teens process grief in ways that are deeply personal and often different from adults. Younger children might struggle to grasp the permanence of death, while older teens may wrestle with guilt, anger, or feelings of isolation. Clear, age-appropriate communication and supportive routines can help children feel seen and understood as they navigate these complex emotions (National Alliance for Grieving Children, 2021).
Practical Tips for Supporting Grieving Children
- Use Honest, Clear Language
Avoid euphemisms like “we lost Grandma” or “Dad went to sleep,” which can confuse children. Instead, use straightforward language: “Grandpa died, and that means we won’t see him anymore.” This clarity can reduce uncertainty and build a sense of trust. - Validate Their Feelings
Children need to know their emotions—whether sadness, anger, or confusion—are normal. Let them ask questions, and share your own feelings to model emotional openness. “When children see adults acknowledging their feelings, it shows them that it’s okay to express theirs too” (O’Connor, 2023). - Offer Routine and Creative Outlets
Grief can feel destabilizing, so maintaining familiar routines can provide comfort and predictability. Creative activities like journaling, drawing, or storytelling offer children an outlet to express emotions they may not have words for. At TCR, we use art and other peer-centered activities to help children process their feelings in a safe, supportive environment.
Continuing Bonds: Keeping Connections Alive
A key lesson we emphasize at TCR is the concept of “continuing bonds,” which helps children understand that their relationship with the person who died doesn’t end—it evolves. Memory boxes, rituals, and shared stories can bring comfort and provide a way for children to honor their person. As grief expert Dr. Tashel Bordere explains, “These rituals help children integrate loss into their lives without feeling they need to ‘move on’ or forget” (Bordere, 2021).
When to Seek Additional Support
While many children adjust over time, some may show signs of prolonged grief or distress. If a child withdraws, struggles with concentration, or exhibits significant behavioral changes, it may be time to seek additional help. TCR offers both peer-based programs and individual consultations to support families during these difficult times (American Academy of Pediatrics, 2020).
New Beginnings with Compassion and Community
As families step into the new year, it’s important to remember that grief and new beginnings can coexist. At TCR, our mission is to ensure that no child or family has to grieve alone. By providing spaces for connection and tools for healing, we help families find hope and resilience as they navigate life after loss.
If you or someone you know could benefit from grief support, CLICK HERE to learn more about our programs and resources. Together, we can create compassionate communities where grief is met with understanding, and no one has to navigate it alone.
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References
- American Academy of Pediatrics. (2020). Helping Children Cope with Grief. Retrieved from https://www.aap.org.
- Bordere, T. (2021). Continuing Bonds in Grief Support: Practical Applications. Journal of Bereavement Studies, 18(2), 45–59.
- National Alliance for Grieving Children. (2021). Talking with Children About Death. Retrieved from https://childrengrieve.org.
- O’Connor, M. F. (2023). The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss. New York: HarperOne.
